Host your own swingers party
Host your own Swingers Party
We have been running swingers parties in Europe for 20 years - in excess of 500 parties, so we have learnt the hard way how to run a successful swingers party.
Choose a date for your party
Make sure that the party does not fall on a public holiday or the day before. Most people will be spending holidays with their families, so you are likely to have a reduced guest list.
A Friday or Saturday evening usually work best. Choosing an evening during the working week or on a day of worship will also reduce your guest list.
For your first few events allow a month for the details of your event to be spread around the swingers in your area.
Choose a location for your Swingers Party
In Europe and America most people prefer to attend house parties. As yet we have no data on preferences in Jakarta, Indonesia.
Some people arrange parties in Hotels, but this increases the costs of the party and in Jakarta could increase the risks of the authorities interrupting the event.
Make sure there are suitable local hotels for guests to stay overnight if your location is outside of the city. After a good party most guests will be very tired and in no mood to travel long distances. Make a list of local hotels and taxi companies and send them to confirmed guests so they can make arrangements before the event.
If you are using a hotel, make sure they will be allow a swingers party. You do not want them calling the police halfway through the evening.
Keep the location discrete
In Jakarta Swingers Clubs and Swing Parties are not legal.
It is a good idea to only reveal the general area of the party and only send the exact location to confirmed guests on the day of the party, to reduce the risk of authorities trying to stop your fun.
You need to make sure that the location is not shared on social media and whatsapp groups, or you may be flooded by single men.
Make guests pay a non-refundable deposit for your party, and only send the location to these confirmed guests.
Cost the event
Unless you are very well off, you will want to re-coup the costs of running the party, but you also want to keep the price low so that you encourage lots of guests.
Work out how much you want to spend on food and drink for your guests.
Work out how much it will cost you to buy extra toilet paper, wet wipes, extra soaps and washing powders for the bed linens.
It is also a good idea to have a supply of condoms, as guests often forget to bring them.
Define the type of party
Most swingers parties are for Couples only, to ensure that there is an equal number of men and women. However there are lots of couples who enjoy playing with an extra man or woman. These are the typical type of swingers party:
- Couples Only nights - catering for couple who want to meet couples. Single males are always barred from these events, though single ladies are usually allowed.
- Couples and Singles Nights - A small number of single men are allowed into the club/party. Hosts have to be carefull to keep the balance right or some couples will stop attending.
- Greedy Girl / gang bang nights - catering for the girl who likes lots of male attention. The ratio of men to women is from 3 to 1, to 10 to 1. This can sound daunting, but ladies are treated with respect, and only play with as many, or as few, of the men as they want to.
- Bi nights - generally for couples only where both are bi-sexual.
- Fetish nights - dressing up, whips and chains, oil and leather and lace.
- Gay nights - usually geared towards gay men, though more clubs are starting to cater for gay females as well.
Set up Secure Communications
You don't want to give strangers your family or works telephone number. Buy a cheap second mobile phone that can handle WhatsApp and Telegram messages. Only use this number for your parties.
Don't use closed communications systems that only work on Apple devices, you need to speak to people who use non Apple devices as well.
Create a party email address. Only give potential guests this email address.
Explain the rules of your party by sending an email or message with your house rules.
Send potential guests a copy of your non disclosure document to sign and bring to the party with them.
Advertise your party
We will advertise your party on this website. If it going to be a regular event we will also add it to Clubs andParties under the relevant section.
If you are not getting enough people booking to join the party it may be better to cancel 2 days before, rather try to run an event with only one or two couples.
Look for other swingers sites that allow people to advertise their events.
On the Day
Clean the house
If you want guests to come to another party in the future, it is important that the house is clean. Everyone has different ideas on how clean a place should be, but no one is going to fault you if your home is clean and sweet smelling.
Prepare The Bedrooms
Put clean sheets and pillow slips on every bed.
Put wet wipes, tissues and rubbish bins in every room so people can clean up after playing.
Make the rooms inviting, with subdued lighting, and attractive matching linens.
Prepare the bathrooms
Make sure there is plenty of toilet paper, with the spare rolls visible to your guests.
Make sure there are plenty of clean spare towels.
Check the bathrooms throughout the event, some people leave the rest rooms in a bit of a mess.
Prepare the reception rooms
Each party needs a "Safe" area where people can meet, talk and eat at the start of the evening and retire to away from sexual activity throughout the evening.
Make the room attractive with subdued lighting, sweet smelling candles, space to sit or stand to talk to other guests.
Put a copy of your house and party rules in a place where they can be seen.
Prepare the food
Don't prepare a big meal - People are attending the party to have sex with each other. A big meal is going to make them sleepy and sluggish.
Keep the food simple - After many trials of different menus we have found that finger food such as cocktail sausages, cheese and tomato, cheese and onion, cheese and pineapple sticks, chicken wings, cheese boards, pate and toast, Samosas, Pakoras, Bahjis, sausage rolls, and various Spanish tapas work best. They are light, easy to handle and quick to prepare.
Keep vegetarian options separated from the meats, so that everyone can be included, the vegetarians are a growing minority and as swingers we do not discriminate against anyone.
Aim to finish preparing food an hour before the party, so that the cooking smells have time to clear.
Leave time for a shower
Aim to have the food ready an hour before the party so that you have time to take a shower and get dressed. You don't want to be greeting your guests in dirty clothes with your hair awry and in dirty clothes.
Final Checks
Do a final walk through to make sure everything is in order.
Test the music system is working.
Sit down and have a quiet drink while you wait for your first guests.
Greet your guests
Welcome them to your home, offer them a drink and offer to show them around your home so they know where the food and drinks are, where the playrooms are and where the bathroom is.
Check that they have not brought any phones or cameras with them.
Collect their non disclosure agreement.
Make sure they understand your house and party rules.
Engage them in conversation and introduce them to any guests already in the house.
Enjoy Yourselves
As hosts, we never ask our guests to play with us. This is because people feel pressured to play with their hosts if they are asked. This is a decision you can make for yourselves.
But if a guest asks you and you like their looks accept the offer.
After the party
Leave the washing up and the laundry until tomorrow, take yourselves to bed and get some well earned sleep.